Booze abuse
Question
I have a generally good relationship with my partner but I've become abusive to her when I get drunk. It doesn't happen often but I'm worried that she will leave me. What should I do?
Answer
It's not unusual for alcohol to cause aggression. It lowers inhibitions and can lead to reckless and extreme behaviour that wouldn't occur if you were sober.
The most obvious step you can take to address your problem is not to get drunk. Sometimes this is easier said than done, so if you don't want to stop drinking altogether try setting yourself a strict limit before you start drinking. People's tolerance for alcohol varies according to a range of factors, so make sure you know how much you can take.
The fact that you abuse your partner when drunk suggests that there might also be issues with your relationship that require attention. If you are able to talk freely with your partner then that is probably the best place to start. It might also be helpful to talk the situation through with a trusted friend or family member, if you don't feel able to talk to someone you know about the situation you could contact SupportLine on (020) 8554 9004.
There are also specialist services that can help you. Alcohol Concern has treatment services across the country or you could call Drinkline on 0800 917 8282. For help with your relationship, you can contact Relate, an organisation offering a range of services including relationships counselling and therapy.
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